My Vacation Boyfriend: New Year's in Buenos Aires

As told to Kara Cutruzzula

In December 2009 I was flying to Buenos Aires to meet some friends and celebrate New Year's Eve. When I lined up to board my flight, I was thrilled to see a group of cute guys line up too, and even more thrilled when they sat across the aisle from me. I was, of course, in my international travel uniform of high ponytail, glasses, no makeup, yoga pants and a hoodie, so an hour before landing I ran to the bathroom, switched to contacts, brushed my teeth, threw on some blush, lipstick and mascara and sashayed back to my seat.

One of the guys — we'll call him Matt — started chatting me up. People are really intrigued by a young woman flying by herself. He was traveling with friends who worked in San Francisco — all tech guys, of course — to celebrate New Year's as well. I mentioned that I was meeting my friends and we were renting an apartment in the beautiful, leafy Palermo Soho district. We exchanged emails and went our separate ways.

I didn’t think I would hear from him because, well, we met on an airplane. But when I arrived at the apartment my friends and I were renting and realized we had a rooftop pool I immediately thought, I’m throwing a party.

I got into the vacation spirit, eating steak and going to see flamenco. A day later I saw my opening: an email from Matt. “What are you up to? Having fun?” I said we’re having a great time, and oh, we’re having a party at this amazing apartment and you should come.

On New Year’s Eve a dozen people came over, a pretty good turnout considering I’d arrived only two days earlier. We made drinks for the guys, put on some hip hop and took ridiculous group photos. It felt like such a wild, spontaneous event. Matt was hot, friendly, funny — and very confident. He was sending out a “don’t worry, this is going to be great” vibe. We headed out to a club for the New Year’s countdown.

At the Club Museum dancing didn’t start until 3 a.m. and went all night. When we walked in he put his hand on the small of my back. He was obviously trying to move things along while I was playfully ducking him to keep up at least a little bit of a chase. Except with a vacation boyfriend, the chase has to be a sprint not a marathon otherwise you’ll run out of time.

All night we kept dancing and then splitting up and circling back together, until he pulled me into a dim corner away from all of our friends. Kissing him was amazing. I felt so wild being in Argentina with some strange, hot guy I’d just met on the plane. We were making out when the clock struck midnight. He kept trying to talk me into getting in a cab with him but I just couldn’t pull the trigger on our first night.

The next day we met for cocktails and a tour of the gorgeous cemeteries in Buenos Aires, but I still didn’t sleep with him. I pictured our romance as a PG-rated rom-com. Saying goodbye was hard, but he lived in San Francisco and I was in LA, so it was what it was.

Two years later, I opened my inbox to a “Remember me?” email. He was coming to LA. It was on. After some nervous primping, we got dinner, drinks, and were making out in the club when he invited me back to his hotel. This time I said yes. He had his hands all over me in the cab and as soon as we got to the hotel he tugged my dress over my head. I started laughing when he took his shirt off because his body was so amazing — he was insanely ripped. He was probably expecting me to swoon, but instead I said something like, "Damn!" and then dissolved into giggles. He started laughing too because this sexy moment that had been building for years suddenly turned ridiculous. But when he took control and playfully pulled my hair while kissing my neck, the night got really hot. It was passionate and steamy and then he lifted me up and held me with my legs wrapped around his waist, my back against the wall. When it was over, we were spent.

Before he left the next morning to catch a flight, he brought me a glass of water, kissed me sweetly and told me to stay in his hotel room as long as I liked.

Since then our relationship has continued in the friends with benefits vein, but it’s never moved further because of the crazy way we met. Vacation boyfriends are beautiful in their fleetingness; they can’t live in the real world.

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Passion: How important is passion to you? For example, a woman we know races triathlons and feels like she doesn't need to be passionate about her job; her passion is attached to her sport.

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Stop Delaying

"The longer you are in the job you are thinking of leaving, the further away you are from new opportunity," says Williams. "It doesn't get any easier. Doing it earlier is emotionally, mentally and professionally better."

Be Willing To Sacrifice Something

You may have to start from the bottom (or the middle) and work your way to the top; Either way, be ready to drop a few rungs on the corporate ladder.

"Internships can be a good idea—or be willing to take a pay cut," says Williams. "If this internship, for example, introduces you to influential people and helps develop a skill-set, you'll be able to take these things to leverage them into a bigger position."

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moving cross country, finding a great partner... or lobbing off all your hair a la Karlie Kloss). But don't fret: It's not an impossible task. It just takes some thought—and great advice.

"A lot of times people don't like what they're doing in their current job, but they haven't defined what they want to be doing in their potential new job," Nicole Williams, career expert and author of Girl On Top, tells Cosmopolitan.com.

She says nabbing your dream job starts with doing some soul-searching: "I ask people to assess components of their current working life, and match them against the career they are looking to get into."

Try asking yourself these questions...

Time: How many hours do you want to work and in what kind of environment? Big company, small, telecommute, work-from-home flexibility (you know, the kind banned at Yahoo!)

Challenge Level: How important is growth potential and being challenged to you? Are you ambitious and ready to lean in, or just looking for a 9 to 5 to fill your time?

Work Environment: Define your best possible scenario in terms of work relationships. Who are you working with and for? What kind of boss would be ideal? Do you have dreams of becoming a boss?

Passion: How important is passion to you? For example, a woman we know races triathlons and feels like she doesn't need to be passionate about her job; her passion is attached to her sport.

6. Money: How much do you need to make? How much money do you want to make?

Steps To Making A Career Change

Stop Delaying

"The longer you are in the job you are thinking of leaving, the further away you are from new opportunity," says Williams. "It doesn't get any easier. Doing it earlier is emotionally, mentally and professionally better."

Be Willing To Sacrifice Something

You may have to start from the bottom (or the middle) and work your way to the top; Either way, be ready to drop a few rungs on the corporate ladder.

"Internships can be a good idea—or be willing to take a pay cut," says Williams. "If this internship, for example, introduces you to influential people and helps develop a skill-set, you'll be able to take these things to leverage them into a bigger position."

Start Saving

"Have a solid idea of the risk and savings in the bank," advises Williams. Even if it means cutting back on luxuries. "If you know the internship is going to last for six months at a minimum, that's the number you need to have in savings, and I normally advise 10 to 20 percent in savings as a risk buffer."

Network

"People love to talk about themselves," says Williams. "Find them on LinkedIn and through people you know, and consult with them."

Williams suggests asking those in similar fields questions like, "I wonder if you'd speak to me about your day-to-day life; What do you love most about the work that you do; What do you wish you would have known going into this career?"

"Those kind of questions are going to give you the information you need and will help you know the people you are going to need to know," she adds.

Now that you are armed with more than just your resume and a fresh manicure, it's time to start hitting the pavement. Happy hunting, gals.

Want more stories from Carson? Follow her on Twitter.

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