Man: A handful of ex-girlfriends. Actually, almost all of them. The only recent one that I didn't try it with was a generally chilly person and I figured I'd rather have a nice evening than broach it. If it requires like a 20-minute explanation, I'd recommend waiting until you're more comfortable with the lady you're doing stuff with. Because there's nothing sexier in the world than having a logistical, video game-style walkthrough before performing a sex act.
Woman: I've done it with various people — my husband included. I kind of think it's a neat little visual trick during foreplay, pre-BJ. Not to completion per se, but like, framing a penis in between your two breasts for a little as a teasing mechanism. That's one form of tittyfucking in my mind – getting in between a guy's legs and basically caressing his penis with your breasts. But there is also the tittyfucking that entails a man essentially straddling your chest when he's about to come during sex, grinding his penis between your boobs, and subsequently coming on your breasts, which I have also done, but not so frequently. Again, did that with my husband and maybe another guy?
How often do you do it?
Man: Definitely not every time I have sex. And definitely not within the, like, first three times of having sex with a person. But this is not a terrible sixth date activity, like going to an outlet mall.
Woman: I'd say… maybe 25 percent of the times I give a beej, I'll do the titty-tease. As for him coming on my breasts, not very often. Twice annually? (Haha.)
Is there any convincing that needs to be done, usually?
Man: I can't remember a time where that would have been necessary, but I'm never in a position where I'm "totally going for it" or anything. Usually this comes at the point in the relationship where potentially more embarrassing/degrading stuff has already happened to one of us in sessions prior.
Woman: I know that my manfriend likes to glance down and have the visual of his penis in between my breasts, and it doesn't bother me too much, so, not really. As for tittyfucking and coming on my boobs, you know this is going to require a post-sex shower, so it's not something I'm offering up too often. But occasionally, as a fun treat, you can say, "I really want you to come on my breasts," have him do so, and they get a kick out of it. It's novel, I guess.
Why do guys like it so much?
Man: I don't know, maybe because boobs are awesome? And guys want their dick near the stuff they find awesome during sex. This is not a logical activity. It's not grounded in a larger outcome or endgame. Balloons do not drop from the ceiling as sometimes happens with vaginal penetrative sex.
Woman: Honestly I think it's very simple and animal and elemental — guys love boobs and they love their dicks. To see those two things physically coming together and resulting in orgasm is an exciting idea and visually, can be a festival for the eyes.
How is it different/better than just coming on someone’s breasts? Is that a dumb question?
Man: It physically feels good. It's like a non-pointless handjob. It's also a mini-compliment. "Hey, your boobs are great, and I'm clearly into it, and they're big enough so we can pull this off, you and I together, from one lover to another, uh-huh." Everything in that quote is the chorus to Islands in the Stream, right?
Woman: Traditionally I think of tittyfucking as essentially smooshing your boobs together to jerk off a man's penis, in the simplest terms. Whereas him coming on your breasts might mean he pulls out and just comes on your breasts real quick, without the titties actually "fucking" him.
[to Man] How does it feel compared to vaginal sex? Do you prefer it?
Man: Vaginal sex is the gold standard. I'm gonna sound like the Duck Dynasty guy if I go any further, but I can tell you a world with just tittyfucking would be a weird and dry world. That said, tittyfucking is a top-tier mix-it-up activity.
[to Woman] Is it physically enjoyable for you?
Woman: It doesn't really bring me any physical pleasure in my loins, but I guess it can be sort of arousing and feel a little naughty in terms of foreplay and creating a sexual mood. Because I don't really do it to the point where he comes, just as a foreplay tactic.
What’s the ideal position for you both to be in to do this?
Man: Lady on knees, guy crouched.
Woman: Probably man lying down or sitting up and woman kneeling in between his legs.
Does it matter if the woman’s breasts are smallish?
Man: Nope. Bigger is better, obviously, for the purposes of what we're doing, but sexuality is effort and enthusiasm.
Woman: My boobs are smallish, and it does require you to kind of clutch your boobs with your hands and mold them around your man's penis, whereas I would assume that if you had big boobs, your natural cleavage would be more fuck-able.
[to Man] Does it feel better with bigger breasts?
Man: Yep.
[to Man] What can a woman with small breasts do to make it feel better for the man?
Man: Make it an in-the-blowjob-mix-in activity. Be really enthusiastic about it. Insist that he come there. That sort of thing.
[to Woman] Is there anything women can do during it to get off?
Woman: IMO, possibly nothing? Both of my hands are on my breasts so I can't reach down to touch myself or use a vibe. And I don't think the dude has the access to reach down to pleasure the woman either.
What do you do when you finish? Is it that pearl necklace thing?
Man: The concept of come just dangling from a woman's face is on its face (hah) kind of gross to me. Never got that. But, yeah, coming on a girl's boobs is probably the best outcome. This predates porn, by the way. Ask your grandfather.
Woman: Again I usually don't TF to completion, but if that does happen, yeah, come will get on your breasts. That's sort of what happens if someone fucks your titties. Then you have to shower, unless you're disgusting. But it's not so bad.
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